 Manners Matter
Manners Matter with Truman and Mrs. F
Q. Why can't you read at the dinner table?
Miley, age 10
A. Dear Miley,
I am very glad to hear that you like to read! But I am not so glad to hear that you are trying to read at the dinner table. Hmm. When you try to read or watch TV during a meal, your attention is what we call "divided," and I am sure this is why you are not being allowed to read at the table. Also, you are probably not actually eating all that much, and this is also a concern for your parents, I am sure.
The reason we don't read at the table has to do with not paying attention to those around you, and that is why it is rude. It makes the others at the table think you don't care about talking to them or listening to them, and that may also hurt their feelings. It could also send a signal that you don't like the food, and that can really hurt someone's feelings.
When you share a meal with someone, it is polite to give them and the food your "undivided" attention. You should always take the time to enjoy the food and try to talk to your family and most important, listen to what they have to say to you. These are the people who love you, and you can read anytime!
Q. I don't like to talk about my sister when my friends are around because I love my sister. What should I do? Sister Twister
A. Dear Sister,
I think you are a very good and kind sister not to allow other people to talk about her when you are around. It is not always easy, though, to stand up for your beliefs when they are different from those around you. But it is very important that you protect your sister from your friends talking about her. You might say to them something like "I know you don't mean to, but you hurt my feelings when you talk about my sister." If they are really your friends, once they know that it upsets you, they should stop.
Truman and Mrs. Susan Fleming will be glad to answer your questions on manners and etiquette. Susan Fleming is a home economist, editor and lifestyle writer, specializing in the areas of entertaining and childrens etiquette. Parents, want to teach manners this summer? Visit susanfleming.com and check out her comprehensive curriculum that includes a great teacher's manual. E-mail your question to manners@kidsvillenews.com. If we use your question in the publication, you will receive a Kidsville News! t-shirt!
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